The Sin of Aromanticism and the Virtue* of Singleness

The Sin of Aromanticism and the Virtue* of Singleness

One of the fundamental tactics of war is that you should never cede your ground to the enemy.

Earlier this year, a close friend of mine for several years, one strong in her faith, came out as aromantic and asexual, commonly known in those circles as simply “aroace”. I had a dialogue with her about it, and we eventually came to the same conclusion, one that I want to advocate for here: Being aromantic and asexual is a sin, while being single is not.

(Side note: In my research about this, I have realized something: the amount of solid, Christian documentation on this topic is little to none.)
The difference between being aroace and being single may seem like a thin line, but in reality, it is a difference of worlds, views, and worldviews. Let me explain.

I want to bring forward at the outset that Wokeism is a worldview. It is a religion. Their god is often identity or some amorphous thing such as equality. It is a very socially-driven religion.
In order for atheists to argue with Christians, they need to steal ground from Christianity. Without reason, there's no point in arguing. You can't have reason from evolution. You can't have logic without a God to define it. Many presuppositions atheists make are impossible to achieve straight from their worldview. A joke I've heard about this concept goes a little something like this:

Christian: Alright, we’ll have a balanced debate. You get your ground, and I'll get mine.
Atheist: walks a bit over
Christian: Un un un! You need to get your own ground!

Going along with this, we need to know that when you use language that the enemy is using, you're accepting part of their religion, part of their worldview.
Does that mean that a Christian and atheist can never share the same terms, and can thus never communicate? No, but what it does mean is that you should always stand on Christian ground.
Saying that you’re “aroace” and flying the flag of aromanticism and asexuality, whether it be the literal flag, putting it in your profile picture, or otherwise, is giving land to the enemy. It is saying, in effect, that “your ideas have merit. There is some truth to this”, and as we know, nothing except that which comes from God is good.
With that, you may be asking, “Is it wrong to be single? Do I have to be in a relationship”? The answer to that is obviously “no”. I wouldn’t want a 2-year-old to date, there are many single people at Crossroads . . .

So, what is singleness, then? Is it a curse? No! It is a gift from God, just as being married is a gift.
Courting is the “default state”, in a sense. It is what God designed most of us to do. Does that mean that if you’re not finding your “soulmate”, that you should just give up and remain single your whole life?
No. Some people are called to singleness. It is these feelings that often lead people to the state of wanting to join in with the “aroace club” because they don’t fall in love the same way people around them do.
A future article would go over the thoughts behind the connection behind autism and aromanticism, but for now, I will conclude for this:Don’t take the signs of singleness, (a gift) and name them something part of a religion against God.

In Christ,

Judah Matthan Milesst content